Sometimes there are moments that seem like they are still-life, and they are pictured in your mind forever. Some good, some bad, some just are.
Then there are moments that change your thinking, change your perspective, and ultimately change your life.
I have had so many of these lately that it’s been a bit overwhelming. My friend calls it “the gauntlet”, and she had run hers a few years ago. I am running mine now. It’s a series of life-defining events that are sometimes cataclysmic, but always kind of an emotional do or die situation.
This year has been one of the toughest emotionally, but one of the best years of my life. There’s been loss, heartache, emotional pain, and stress from a variety of sources. All of that leads me to this. This moment, my gauntlet.
I am done hiding. I have hid behind a wall for so long, and I have written about it. This is different. It’s visceral. It’s one of several breakthroughs I have had in the past months, but this is one of the most important.
Because it’s about me. A lot of the other breakthroughs I’ve had, and the success has been because I wanted to be an integral part of building others up. Because they deserved it. It wasn’t because I deserved it. I didn’t think I deserved that success, but I for damned sure wanted to help them achieve theirs. To be apart of something greater, and we pulled together as a team and succeeded.
It was amazing to be part of that, and I’ll never forget it.
Now I realize that I DESERVE success, too. For me, for my team, for my family. And all of that is okay. It’s not selfish, it’s not narcissistic, and it’s deserved. I have worked to grow myself to the person I am today, and it was hard, it was painful, and at times it quite frankly sucked. The outcome though? The best thing I have ever done. To realize I AM worthy of all those things. Me. Not for someone else, is my biggest shift to date. I am quite literally shaking with fear and realization.