After so many of years, months, etc of trying to figure out things. I have figured it out.
There is such a thing as fear based versus caution. Fear based is based on limited information, fear, and an overall scared mentality. Caution is based on informed decision making, facts, and pros and cons list.
Having lived this life on fear based thinking and mentality, I get it. Trust me, I get it ALL of it. Fear is easier to handle, it’s easier to push away, it’s easier in general. I’m scared of heights, boom, done. I’m scared to talk to that person because I’ve been devastated before in the past when opening up to someone BOOM, done. I’m afraid to do this thing so outside my comfort zone, what if I get ridiculed, embarrassed, and want to hide in a corner? BOOM, activity over. People coddle you when you make excuses, hide yourself, and hide under a rock. They do not coddle you when you make a decision to change your life.
People commiserate over sadness, and make excuses for you. My friend Keri, said when she broke her foot, that people would say to her, “oh it’s ok you’ve gained such and such weight, you broke your foot. Let me help you.” All of that is okay. But it is so much easier to commiserate than it is to move past your own obstacles, own them, figure out a way to fix the problem, and move on. This is why people stay where they are for years.
Own your life, your decisions, and be happy with it. I had a talk with my dad about a few different things tonight as we were walking. The universe conspires in weird and wonderful ways, and sometimes those ways suck hairy monkey balls. The best thing that ever happened to me was being fired for forgetting to lock a door, literally. I was working 60-70s a week between two jobs, and quite honestly, I didn’t see that changing. I got a promotion at work, and literally two days later was fired.
I had to figure out what the hell I was going to do with myself. I spent the first month vegging out on TV turning off my brain. Then I took my first whitewater kayaking class, and started paddling.
However, for the next two out of the three jobs I had were fear based. Fear that I would lose my job, that I wasn’t good enough, and I put in more hours than ever. This is really no way to live life. When my last environmental consulting job, which was the worst in terms of job security than any of the others, ended, I was actually relieved.
Fast forward to the present. I am working retail at a job I’ve worked since high school, which is as far from fear based as you could possible get; and I am passionately working my beloved Arbonne business.
I say that I found myself in Arbonne, and it’s true. I have found so much more than that. I have found my purpose for being on this planet. If I can inspire one other tree-hugging hippie paddler, introvert, and outdoor junkie to understand that they can do whatever the hell they want in this life, than what better honor is there than that?
To inspire others to live their dreams, and make them realize that if I can do them, than why the hell not them? Truly is there any better privilege than that? No there isn’t.
Yet another big shift. And I’ve only just begun.