I will admit that I am totally, 100% addicted to exercise in a way I never thought possible. If I go a two days without it, I’m like Jonesing for a fix. It’s weird, but it’s a good weird. Every time I go to Sphericality, I reminded that I made a good choice. I finally had the chance to take a class with the owner of said gym, Dorian, and she did not disappoint. Like most of the other classes I have taken there, there was a focus on form. Dorian seemed to take it a step further, and went around the class and tweaked our movements if need be. Kelly also did this. This is one of the reasons I am coming to love this gym. It’s almost perfect for me.
I love music. I don’t play it, or sing it, I just thoroughly enjoy it. It is apart of my soul. Yesterday, my friend Jenny had her first open mic at her place in Bath, PA. There were a couple of firsts for me. I read poetry (okay, I had done it once before), and I played music for a genuine first. I played the cymbals. Yes, I know that’s not much. For me though? It was HUGE. I have always thought I didn’t know how to keep a beat, at all. Yesterday I proved myself wrong, because I was according to Jenny able to keep a beat. I also felt like I could before I asked her. It was a night of firsts, bonding, and just celebration of a new, eclectic space.
I pushed through a few boundaries, reading my poetry in public and playing music. For me, there are very few things more vulnerable than those two things. Reading my inner-most thoughts out loud to the public is something that I am working on overcoming this year. This was a first step. Was it uncomfortable? Hell to the Yes. Was it worth that feeling? Hell to the yes. Happiness and freedom lay outside your comfort zone, and that is where I am pushing this year.
I am a different person than I was last year, and I’m pushing myself to be even more different next year. When I say different, I don’t mean a caricature of yourself. I mean that you are becoming the best version of yourself, and finding your true calling in life. Which may be so different than you ever thought it could be (like mine). Be in love with who you are, or at the least be working on loving yourself. I know it sounds weird (guilty) and new-agey, but trust me when I tell you when you feel peace with yourself and your mission, there is a peace inside of you that rivals no other.
Your comfort zone is like a muscle. It must be worked, or it atrophies. So today, on my little jaunt into the woods I walked down to the stream alongside the trail. I used to backpack all the time in the Adirondacks. I would scamper and scramble over rocks, boulders, streams, etc. It didn’t bother me at all, I actually really enjoyed it. I was used to it, and had pretty decent balance. Fast forward to today. I don’t do much backpacking (alright, any backpacking), and the scampering has stopped as well. This is because there aren’t a lot of boulders or mountains here where I need to do that kind of stuff, and I just don’t hike as much as I used to. I canoe way more, and that has become my primary outdoor activity.
The “Wick” Creek.
So today, I decided to do some scampering. You have to start somewhere. So I traversed some rocks to cross back and forth several times across this little stream. Was it big? No. Did it feel good? Hell yes. Did it start to feel more natural and better the third time across? Yup. Little accomplishments matter, and celebrate them however you feel like.
There have been in the past very few times where I feel completely relaxed. It is generally been paddling, in the outdoors, or when I’ve been slightly buzzed. I emphasize slightly because I did not drink to get drunk…think what you will about this. I drank to get comfortable in social situations, this was especially true when I was with people I didn’t know very well. Yes, I am pretty much putting it all out there for the general public. I think it will help people, and yes, I am really uncomfortable with it. Also not sure if I should do it. That is always a good sign.
Stolen from the interwebs. I always reflect more when out in nature…just this pic.
There are times where we do things that we don’t really consider because they make us feel better. There are always things that make us act in certain ways and do things that aren’t necessarily in our character because we are trying to compensate for something in our lives that is lacking. It was subconscious for me. I did it to hide myself from others. Something I have been trying very hard to break myself from. The deceit (mostly of myself), the hiding, and the shame that I felt for myself. I didn’t want others to see ANY part of that vulnerability. It’s about letting people see who you REALLY are. It is an all-consuming fear of mine-to be known. That for some reason unknown to me, I have made quite public on this blog.
I used to drink to relax, to belong to something bigger than myself, and to distance myself from that part of me that felt “outside” acceptance from others.
I no longer feel the need to do that. I feel comfortable in my own skin. I accept, usually, who I am. I danced my little heart out a month ago in front of some very important people to me, and it didn’t matter what they thought of my dancing. I just danced. I let them in, just a little.
Accepting yourself is the best gift you can give yourself. It took me a long to find that in myself. I feel at peace more than I ever thought possible.