Your comfort zone is like a muscle. It must be worked, or it atrophies. So today, on my little jaunt into the woods I walked down to the stream alongside the trail. I used to backpack all the time in the Adirondacks. I would scamper and scramble over rocks, boulders, streams, etc. It didn’t bother me at all, I actually really enjoyed it. I was used to it, and had pretty decent balance. Fast forward to today. I don’t do much backpacking (alright, any backpacking), and the scampering has stopped as well. This is because there aren’t a lot of boulders or mountains here where I need to do that kind of stuff, and I just don’t hike as much as I used to. I canoe way more, and that has become my primary outdoor activity.
The “Wick” Creek.
So today, I decided to do some scampering. You have to start somewhere. So I traversed some rocks to cross back and forth several times across this little stream. Was it big? No. Did it feel good? Hell yes. Did it start to feel more natural and better the third time across? Yup. Little accomplishments matter, and celebrate them however you feel like.
There have been in the past very few times where I feel completely relaxed. It is generally been paddling, in the outdoors, or when I’ve been slightly buzzed. I emphasize slightly because I did not drink to get drunk…think what you will about this. I drank to get comfortable in social situations, this was especially true when I was with people I didn’t know very well. Yes, I am pretty much putting it all out there for the general public. I think it will help people, and yes, I am really uncomfortable with it. Also not sure if I should do it. That is always a good sign.
Stolen from the interwebs. I always reflect more when out in nature…just this pic.
There are times where we do things that we don’t really consider because they make us feel better. There are always things that make us act in certain ways and do things that aren’t necessarily in our character because we are trying to compensate for something in our lives that is lacking. It was subconscious for me. I did it to hide myself from others. Something I have been trying very hard to break myself from. The deceit (mostly of myself), the hiding, and the shame that I felt for myself. I didn’t want others to see ANY part of that vulnerability. It’s about letting people see who you REALLY are. It is an all-consuming fear of mine-to be known. That for some reason unknown to me, I have made quite public on this blog.
I used to drink to relax, to belong to something bigger than myself, and to distance myself from that part of me that felt “outside” acceptance from others.
I no longer feel the need to do that. I feel comfortable in my own skin. I accept, usually, who I am. I danced my little heart out a month ago in front of some very important people to me, and it didn’t matter what they thought of my dancing. I just danced. I let them in, just a little.
Accepting yourself is the best gift you can give yourself. It took me a long to find that in myself. I feel at peace more than I ever thought possible.
When a person sets a goal (big or small), and fails to meet it by their deadline, how do they react? It depends on their perspective. I missed a big goal last month. Was I slightly disappointed? Yes. Has it crippled me? No. I am still determined to get it done. I was actually filled with so much gratitude because so many of my team members achieved their goals, and the energy that was created will continue into this month to fuel everyone’s business.
Be unstoppable in spite of fears and doubts. Taken from the interwebs. Unsure of where.
I did not change the goal to fit the deadline. I played full out until the end. When you bring it until the end, even if you didn’t make the goal, you feel like you’ve won. You have momentum that continues to build, and that is an AMAZING feeling.
If you stop before the deadline though, and then give up on achieving it at all? The pain of regret is worse than the pain of failure, and can stop you in your tracks. We’ve all been there, knowing that we could have done something more. However, dwelling on the past and beating yourself up about it does not serve anyone. Move on and decide to do it better.